Part- 1 (ADHD, Autism, Bipolar Disorder)
Neurodevelopmental Disorders are disorders that occur due to an interaction between genetics and the environment. Note: This means you are not responsible for the child’s ADHD, Autism, Manic Depressive illness and many more. No matter what others say you are not a bad parent. Most of these disorders are present in our genes.
In this article I will only talk about three disorders. There are many more.
The most common and currently on the rise is Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder. The name speaks for itself. The child displays lack of focus and cannot pay attention for a long period of time. He may be way more hyperactive than other kids and very difficult to deal with. Children are exhausting to deal with but parents dealing with a hyperactive child need to take plenty of breaks. Sometimes it’s okay to dismiss rude or bad behavior of the child. Never in any circumstances use violence as it may backfire on you.
The second disorder is Autism. One of the most misunderstood disorders. The textbook knowledge in this disorder is vastly lacking and more misleading than accurate. My advice as a psychologist to you is: always learn about disorders from people who are living with it. There are people like that present who take workshops and seminars and teach about disorders. There are psychologists who have autism, bipolar, OCD and others. Truhap offers an Autism course that is taught by a highly qualified Autistic individual.
Autism Spectrum is a complex neurodiverse phenomenon. We should learn from this spectrum that even if a group of people suffer from the same disorder they may exhibit it in a completely different manner. The thing I find most interesting in Autistic people is most of them display at least one form of hyper (or) hypo-sensitivity from the five senses. Examples for hyposensitivity: They may want to touch textures even if its inappropriate (to feel). They may take physical risks or make strange loud sounds. They may bang their heads against objects to feel.
Examples for hypersensitivity: They may cover their ears with their hands and start rocking sitting on the floor because even little noises appear loud to them. Loud enough that they can’t concentrate on anything. The kid may refuse to eat certain types of foods as the flavor feels too strong to them. Note: They are not exaggerating, their senses are heightened and it is all real.
The last disorder I want to talk about is Bipolar disorder. First and for most I want you all to know that a person with any disorder is NOT DANGEROUS. It might seem like that but as human’s we are afraid of the unknown. Bipolar people do not have aggression issues. They have a symptom: irritation. Think of someone normal and he/she is constantly being irritated, would they not lose their temper after a point? It is the same with bipolar disorder. And just like the normal person they can tame their anger and learn to use it better.
It is difficult to stay with someone who is bipolar and refusing to take treatment. But it is not impossible. Most often bipolar people have difficulty in maintaining relationships not because they can’t love. But because the front person cannot handle the highs and lows of their bipolar partner. You need to understand that the mood swings of a bipolar partner has ABSOLUTELY NOTHING to do with you. It is not personal. It is a chemical imbalance they cannot control. Bipolar people did not choose to be depressed or hyper. It is nobody’s fault.
I would also like to add that people with any of these three disorders may display aggressive behaviors. Individuals with these disorders are most often frustrated, irritated and often feel as though they are too different and all alone. Someone once told me: Every inappropriate behavior means something. If someone is throwing and breaking chairs, it means they are trying to tell us something. They are displaying an emotion that they are not able to handle. We need to be open and understanding.