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Female sexuality was called "the dark continent" by Freud. If that can be true, male sexuality should be qualified as the dark planet. It can’t be true that guys are simple when it comes to sex. One of the great platforms of male performance is the bedroom and as such, what one sees and hears is normally the role, not the reality. It's no wonder, in trying to please the actor; a woman loses sight of a guy's true personality .Here are some "unmasking" realities for you to know:
We Respond To Admiration
Men are so obsessive by women’s libido that they do not have self-consciousness surrounding sex. But even men are the same when it comes to praises as catalysts for sexual confidence. It would work if this praise can be delivered before reaching the bedroom (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look), and after (give us the once-over and tell us how buff we look naked). Sometimes men worry about the size of their guts (and other measurable organs), their hair (or lack thereof) and other attributes. Try to be emphatic about those sensitivities.
We Fear Proximity
It was proved by studies that boys are more affectionate, even more expressive, compared to girls until they reach school age. Then starts the social suppression of words, thoughts, feelings and the longing for human association goes underground. So taboo is this desire for relationship that its prospect can horrify men not because it's suffocating, but because they realize how desperate they are for it. A woman needs to do the magic now. First of all try to understand the reason for your guy's hasty retreat post-sex. That can be because of his own shock at how much he pines for a relationship with you (and how much he's denied it in life). Withdraw a little yourself so that he gets time to understand that his boyhood habits are, in fact, perfectly manly.
We Appreciate Sex for Sex's Sake
It is said that a little "throw-me-down sex" is the right medicine to increase the intimacy. According to Joe Kort, PhD, a psychotherapist and sexologist, "Men want their wives to enjoy raw sex, not just endure it or take it personally. For men, it's not about dominating a woman, but ravishing her." On occasion, try letting him ravish you.
We Are Not Just Our…
A famous psychologist once said that the penis gets all the press, but men have "many erogenous zones” like the chest, inner thighs and the face. Men tend not to correct women because they're afraid women will shut down and not touch them at all. A woman should touch those parts and also gently grip her man's testicles which can be a real turn-on, as it blends control with release. Also, stimulating the perineum, the area between the scrotum and anus, will heighten pleasure during oral sex.
We Encourage Fantasies
A famous research study says that men like to share their fantasies with their wives but are worried that they would be shamed or judged. Men also wish their wives to reveal their dreams. Want to open yourself to these possibilities? Try making a game of it. The most important thing is promise not to judge each other; then, privately write out scenarios that have enticed you and place them in a box. During your next intimacy pull out one and go ahead if both are comfortable with it.
We Like It When You Talk
Stimulation will increase if you talk during sex. What kind of talk? Dirty, praising and instructive are great starts. A woman's words can make a guy feel as potent and virile as a Roman gladiator, even if he's a suburban banker.
We Need Your Honesty
Sex works like a medicine in solving the stresses makes the bonds of a relationship stronger. But many times it is increasing the stress in our lives. It is because we happen to do it occasionally. These serious issues underpin the withholding and we need you to enlighten us. The male self-image is often tied to sex, so it's easy for us to dismiss bedroom problems as female disinterest rather than issues we have a part in. However, avoiding these problems can perpetuate your feelings unseen and our frustration.
We Enjoy The Intimacy In Distance
As research says emotional intimacy is about closeness, but sustaining sexual desire demands a certain amount of distance. But how do the couples strike this sticky balance is a question that needs an answer which satisfies both of them. Men are good at expedition and romance is very distinct for them. Each partner should allow a separate sexuality to have, that doesn’t include and at the same time doesn’t betray. He could watch pornography in order to experience a fantasy and she could be allowed using toys or let other men look at her. Such pleasures can help maintain the balance of desire and dedication for both.
We Can Explain Pornography
Many times couples seek counsel because the spouse uses pornography. But research says that it is not such a big problem that needs to be over reacted. It is unlikely that your man is a sex addict just for that reason because only four percent of the population are addicts. As the childhood experiences influence sexuality as an adult, people are very weird about what turns them on. But the question is how a woman not takes pornography personally. First you should decide if your mate is obsessive or can only have sex, with pornography. If you feel so counseling is required. If not, you can take the secrecy out of pornography by having a cool discussion that helps in increasing your intimacy.
We Always Need It, But Not for the Reason You Think
Many times women accuse men saying that they are sexually voracious. But women should understand that men enjoy sex as a celebration. Men wish women would take more of a 'carpe diem' approach to it. The joy, pleasure and opportunity that sex affords them should not be on the bottom rung in the list of priorities. Regular sex has health benefits too. During Orgasm, oxytocin is released which is known as the ‘Bonding Hormone’, helps the man and woman come closer and assuage the ill factors like anxiety, stress and high blood pressure and there by heals you.
So Dear Women Know Your Man And Enjoy Your Sex Life.